The chance to bloom is now. It is always there, in every moment.
In every movement I make, I step toward creating a new blossom.
I see what I take for granted - tidying up the kitchen after breakfast, jumping in my car to do errands, waking up feeling good for an early call to set. Without thinking, I do these things, relying on my body, my mind, my instincts to help me as I go through my day. I'm usually unconscious about them but goodness me, what miraculous moments those are!
When I have to work for these moments, I get really aware. I realize that I make choices both unwittingly and with purpose. When I've made a decision that doesn't work, it's easy to flog myself with all sorts of mental declarations and criticism but through practice I've learned to laugh at me! I am a very funny girl and instead of making fun of me, I see that I am brilliant! I am high functioning when I'm practicing and playing with my words, with my art supplies, within my daily duties and if my choice doesn't serve me, I learn from it. It's new to me to see myself in this way. A good example is when I am working on a project and I come to that place where I need to persist. One of my challenges is to push through to finish a project without interrupting myself! What used to look elephantine, seem daunting, feel overwhelming - all those illusions that cause a person to stop all movement, to become paralyzed - now feels exciting, seems awesome and looks not only doable, but desirable! It's all just practicing, learning new skills, new ways of doing and being.
I asked some people I know who are working on specific projects ... who have set out to do something - a longtime dream, a whim that turned into more than a momentary thought - something they attempted that was challenging ... What did you learn from it?
Mary Nesius, jewelry designer and founder of Emmy's Medleys, offered a list of things she has learned from years of practicing her craft:
"I guess what I set out to do was make jewelry that would sell, that others would wear. The following is a list of things I learned that I needed to do to make jewelry I thought was successful:
-lots of research: for ideas, better understanding of my materials, color combos, new uses for ordinary or "wasted" things.
-some of my best work comes from "fixing mistakes".
-using random ideas that come to me when I am half-asleep.
-collecting inspirational object, pictures, etc., and referring to them regularly.
-collecting quotes meaningful to me wherever I can find them.
-finding things to laugh at every day.
-sorting and resorting my materials -- by size, color,shape, substance -- looking for something to leap out at me.
-shameless borrowing from things I see on TV, in magazines, or things I see on the street.
-emphasis on innovation, rather than creation from scratch."
Such honest and practiced rituals! Clearly Mary knows what feeds her momentum, how she is best inspired and what she requires practically as she taps into her designer mode.
Johnny Allina has published his first novel. The adventure continues to be rich and filled with personal growth. I asked about his experience ....
"The same way you can’t hide who you are in a relationship, you’ll show up sooner or later on the page. And that’s what happened writing my first novel. It gave me a full view of who I am, how I interact with people and interpret situations. Normally, you get that perspective based on how people react to you. But those are snapshots, isolated moments. And we all want to better understand who we are. Writing put my personality on the page, and let me look at myself."
I love this! It's what happens when we put ourselves out there! Brene Brown talks about vulnerability and how freeing it is even if it IS scary. It wasn't always but now I LOVE feeling vulnerable because it means I'll learn something new! Just reading the table of contents in Elizabeth Gilbert's new book, Big Magic, gives us a list of actions on which to fall back when we're feeling stuck: Courage, Enchantment, Permission, Persistence, Trust, Divinity.
It's been said again and again that blooming can be painful. I have found that to be true only when I am taking myself too seriously. Blooming does require focus ... and a willing receptivity ... and persistence. I am sure each of us has a list. It doesn't have to be painful if we're open to the idea that living is about learning and learning causes us to grow in ways we could never have imagined before that learning experience. There's a whole bouquet of learning for each of us.
The chance to bloom is now ...